Avatar By Carrie Costa, MA, LPC

Is it chemistry — or a red flag in disguise?

Decode dating patterns with clarity and confidence — a therapist-created quiz to help you trust your gut and spot red flags early.

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Date Decoder

How Date Decoder Works

  1. Take the quick quiz (0–5 scale) to reflect on your dating experiences.
  2. Get your free snapshot — a quick color score, short summary, and a mini insight you can use right away.
  3. Unlock your Full Reflection Report ($9.99): therapist-style analysis, pacing guide, and pattern profile in a formatted PDF.
  4. Or join Decode+ Membership ($19.99/mo) for unlimited reports + a monthly therapist insight.
  5. Want human support? Book a consultation.
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Educational tool only — not a diagnosis or legal advice.

Dating Red Flag Decoder

Answer each statement based on how true it feels in your current or recent dating experience.

Scale: 0 Never 1 Rarely 2 Occasionally 3 Sometimes 4 Often 5 Almost Always

Optional: Describe what happened

Pricing

Free Snapshot
  • Color result (Green / Yellow / Orange / Red)
  • One-sentence summary
  • One small tip
$0
Full Reflection Report
  • Therapist-style analysis of your answers
  • Personalized pacing guide + boundary scripts
  • Pattern profile (“Charmer”, “Controller”, etc.)
  • Formatted PDF (2–3 pages)
Tax calculated at checkout (Stripe).
$9.99
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  • Unlimited full reports
  • Monthly therapist insight
  • Early access to new tools
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$19.99/month
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Privacy (MVP)

This site stores your quiz answers locally in your browser by default. We do not collect names or identifying details. Do not enter names or third-party information.

Terms (MVP)

Educational tool for reflection only. Not a diagnosis, treatment, or substitute for professional care. By using this site, you agree not to enter names or identifying details and not to use results to harass or defame any person.